What is in you?

I try to look inward at who I am and what I am made of. What is in you? I know this is a loaded question and can be answered in a million ways. I believe that what is inside all of us is unlocked potential. We are all formed the same way. We all have two parents. We are all made up of cells. What makes each of us different if we have the same components? I believe it is our soul. We are not just human beings, we are spiritual beings in a human body. It is fascinating how there can be 4 kids, all born to the same parents, raised the same way, yet, they are all vastly different from one another. We are not cars off of the same assembly line. We are all unique. The soul is made up of pure energy( my belief) and my mind is blown away when I think about the soul. My kid’s creations and ideas are so fascinating to me. The things they come up with and create is mind boggling. I look at them and just stare. I know my DNA is in them, but I also know their soul is from God. Our existence in itself is mind blowing. What do you want to accomplish in your lifetime? I look at the world in a very different way than I did as a twenty something year old kid. I see this world as a very small place. Technology has made it possible for us to communicate to other people around the globe in a matter of seconds. That technology was created by spiritual beings in a human body. I think about those beings that have created these technologies. How did they even come up with the way to implement their idea? I really believe that thoughts do become things. What we think we can absolutely manifest it. When some people say that a task is impossible, they really believe it is impossible. My thought is that it is impossible for them, not for you. If there is something you really want to do and accomplish, you will figure out a way to make it happen. Positive thougths are important. I have noticed those with negative energy are always complaining about their circumstances. You have the power within you to change your life. If you don’t like something, do something about it. Quit making excuses.  Life is short, life is fun, and life is precious. What are you going to do with yours??????




What is the purpose of life?

This is everyone’s million dollar question. I can tell you that we all have a different talent to offer the world. We all have different goals and desires. I was in my car yesterday and I thought about every single person I looked at. Each person has their own triumphs and failures, dilemmas for the day, family, friends, and careers. Each person has questions and needs answers. We are all in this life together. As I thought about this, I felt a huge overwhelming feeling about how complex life is on this Earth. As I ponder what life is about and the purpose of it, I try to break it down to what I have learned so far. Here is a little bit of what I have learned.

Limitations: WE LIMIT ourselves. We put this ceiling on ourselves based on the false reality of how we view ourselves. All of the situations we face everyday shape us into who we are. We either choose to really believe in ourselves or we don’t. If we choose to believe in ourselves, we need to stop setting expectations/ limitations and boxing ourselves into a category. We should allow ourselves to be creative and let these juices flow. Imagine what we can do if we allow ourselves to just be and do? Amazing things come from permission and freedom.

Life is not always fun: Life can be crappy. Let’s face it, not everything that will happen to us is fun. We can be the most positive person in the world and shit storms will happen. It’s life! How we choose to act during these bad times, is what shapes us. The situation is not what defines you. We can’t control others, so stop trying. We should focus on what we can control. We can control how we look at bad situations. We can choose to see only that negative side, or we can be objective and try to see the whole picture. When we choose to be open and see the whole picture, we will feel better. Find the good in a not so fun situation. The solution will present itself. In these situations, we learn who we really are and how strong we are.

EAT THE CAKE!: I mean this literally and figuratively.  I know I have spent more time and energy talking myself out of the joys in life for one reason or another.  You are worth it! Give yourself permission to indulge once in a while. These experiences and feelings of joy are appreciated so much more when you believe you are deserving and worthy. You are beautiful and worth so much more than any valuable object in this life. We are spiritual beings experiencing a human existence. Enjoy the journey!!!!!

GIVE!: Life in my opinion is so much more fun when you are giving and have a servant’s attitude. I don’t mean give and not receive. There are plenty of takers out there, so set your limits. The type of giving I am referring to is the kind where we don’t expect anything in return. If I give a gift to someone expecting a favor in return, I am not truly giving. In order to truly give, we have to give freely. We have to mean it from the depth of our soul. We have to give without the expectation of getting something in return. I remember for many years I would give with the expectation only I was privileged to know.  How did I even expect to feel good? I didn’t feel good. I was always disappointed. I had no clue why I felt the way I did. It took years of disappointment for me to finally realize I had to self-analyze. Maybe some of this comes with age and maturity, eventually, most of us realize this and analyze ourselves. The gift of giving is the gift to ourselves. I love helping others. I truly feel good helping. I never ask, what do I get out of this? I don’t ever think about that anymore. I see someone in need and I respond.

These are some of the things I have learned by going through this life. The purpose of life is different for everyone. There is no definite answer. You have to look at what your passions are, look at what you enjoy, and find the answer deep within you. We can go through this life as a giver or a taker. Truly what we put in we will get out. If you are feeling like you are coming up short, look at what you are putting into life. Focus on good  and positive things. Our souls thrive on hope not on doom. Find the good. See the rainbow!





It’s swimsuit season! Time to bare all!

Well, folks, it’s here again! Swimsuit season! Yay! (Yeah, not really).  A couple days ago I decided that I felt good enough about my physique to go into TJ Maxx for dreaded swimsuit shopping. I went in determined I was going to like something. I am my absolute, without a doubt, worst critic. I wish I could see myself through someone else’s eyes. I walk into the store on a beautiful 70 degree April day. The women in the store were all scurrying about, chatting, and piling loads of cute household decorations in their carts. Now, normally, TJ Maxx has loads of choices in every category. I could not find the swimsuits anywhere. I know they are here somewhere because swimsuit season started in January. I am looking around and suddenly I spot what appear to be swimsuits. I walk closer and the selection is literally 4 ft wide. I felt my positive-ness begin to fade. How the heck am I supposed to find a suit in the selection of mostly bikinis? I shake my head, exchange glances with a woman who felt the same way. I could totally read her eyes. She came to my side of the rack and told me what is on the other side. Yep, not much! Since I am here, I may as well try something on. I thumb through the suits and suddenly the hosts from What Not To Wear pop into my head. I can hear their commentary. I grab 7 suits to begin with, ranging from two piece tanks to full one piece. I try them on in the fitting room and I am not feeling this at all. Remember how I said I want to look at myself through someone else’s eyes?  I shut my eyes, opened them, and tried to be objective. Suddenly, my queeziness went away and I felt good again.  Who was I staring at?  I pictured a dear friend in front of me and I gave objective, positive advice to her. I ended up buying a suit! I found a beautiful two piece tank suit that hid and scrunched in all the right places, while flattering other places.

My lesson I learned was this, be nice to yourself. Treat yourself like a dear precious friend that you love and adore. If you can see yourself through someone else’s eyes, the once negative thoughts will become good positive thoughts. Why are we so hard on ourselves? You do not have the right to be mean to yourself. You are someone’s daughter, son, mother, father, husband, wife, niece, nephew, and cousin. The people that hold you dear, would be crushed if they heard you say mean things to yourself. Change your brain, change your life!


Penmanship. Is it a lost art?


When I look at the computer, I know I can pick any font or script I desire. With the click of the mouse, my page is transformed! In today’s society, we do a lot of typing and not enough writing. The act of writing is important. Writing is an art. It takes practice. When we practice manipulating a pen or pencil, we are developing our fine motor skills. We are connecting our brain to our hands. We are engraining what we are writing in our heads. Our minds remember what we see and do. The simple act of moving our writing utensil is so powerful. We can use our minds to create something beautiful. Creating is unique to our individual personalities. We all have our own thoughts, perspectives, and abilities to create unique works of art. As a society, we just don’t practice like we did when I was in school. I remember writing lines, letters, and numbers. My kids never bring home writing assignments. They have IPads in the classroom. They are learning to type. I think those skills for computer are extremely important, but, I feel we shouldn’t drop learning how to write. The writing skills go far beyond just writing.