The attitude of gratitude.

The attitude of gratitude is not always easy. Some days when everything just goes wrong, it is hard to feel grateful and see the positives. Lately, I have just been thrown a whole lot of curve balls. These curve balls have forced me to make decisions in my life,  moving forward in directions I may have not moved. It wasn’t until I got a hold of my feelings, dealt with them, and processed them, that I began to feel grateful again. I know there are many blessings in my life. Every day I try to reflect on those and thank God for giving me another shot at life. I wake up breathing, hearing birds, feeling the day is going to be good because I choose to make it good. A person’s attitude really sets the tone for the day. If you wake up feeling defeated, the day is going to be that much harder. The little bumps in the road are going to seem like a mountain. The solutions to these obstacles will not present themselves because your mind is totally closed off to them.  I know it is hard to change your attitude, believe me I know. Staying upset and miserable is a choice too. I have been trying to follow my own advice lately. My biggest downfall is assuming I know how someone means something and making up a story about it in my mind. Then that story becomes the reality and I get all bent out of shape about something that possibly isn’t even real. We all have to allow others to have their bad day and to understand that we have bad days too. Having a bad day doesn’t mean life is doomed. It just means today is crap, deal with it, and get over it. The hardest principle for me to put into place is to not take things personally. Sooooo hard to remember! Feelings are completely illogical. Feelings, if not controlled, cause some major damage. Feelings that are stuffed and not dealt with cause huge damage too. We just have to be brave and deal with feelings head on. It is scary sometimes, especially when we put ourselves out there and be vulnerable. The saying “it is better to have loved and lost then not loved at all” ( or something to that effect), does ring true. However, we have to remember that every person is different and there is someone out there that will make you happy and be that right person for you. You just have to be willing to get out of your shell and take some risks.