My friend…..

What does it mean to be a friend to someone? Are you a friend? I think about my closest friends that I had in my life. I am forever grateful to have such great people I can count on in my life. We go through this life once and if you can get connected on such a level with another individual, you are truly lucky. The older I get the more deeply connected I want to be. I don’t need tons of friends, just a few good ones.


What motivates you?

Many of us need to really be “moved” to be motivated to change the direction of our lives. For some of us, that could be a devastating event and for others, they are just naturally curious. What gets you going? For me, it is the internal drive to improve myself. If I am unsure how to do something or I am unaware of how to do something, I usually research it and try it. Sometimes, I realize I don’t like whatever task I am doing, but I learned something in the process. If we go day in and day out, eating relatively the same food, falling into a similar pattern for the day, and never really looking to learn something new, then we get bored. I used to think I got bored of the job I was doing and then needed to find a new one. I have since realized, it is not the job, it was my life. I needed to grow my soul and cultivate my skills.  I like to shake things up and throw myself a curve ball. Doing that keeps my brain and my body motivated to do more. I know I need more of nature and becoming one with nature. I used to be so distracted by social media and not paying as much attention to who is real in my life. I am happy things have recently become even more clear. I have to say, life in your 40’s is divine.  What gets you motivated?


Binge watching Christmas movies………..

AS I watch these movies, I wonder do these love tales exist??? I really don’t think that they do. Real life isn’t the movies and that is the problem with watching these. I feel like my expectations are set so high, that it can’t possibly exist. I am not asking for magic, I am just asking for mutual actual love and respect. I have been doing some PT work as a merchandiser, merchandising books. As I read these titles and the premises of e books, I think who writes these things? Then a customer was walking by and started talking to me and saying he wants to write books. He commented on the romance books and I said but they set an unrealistic expectation of what a romantic relationship is. His reply was but women can at least read about it and have it in an intellectual form. So, my question is, does this kind of love actually exist? Actual love. I have been thinking that the only actual love that exists is the that between us and God and the love we have for our children. other than that, I don’t feel like there is no strings attached love.


If you could, would you?

Let’s pretend money doesn’t exist and you don’t need it to survive. What would you choose to do with your time, talents, or job? Yes, some people out there would say that if they didn’t need money, they would not work. Let’s pretend you don’t need money and you do have to work. What would you choose to do with your time? I would get out there and help others see their potential. I would try to build them up so they could see and recognize their talents. I truly believe that we all have something inside us that will help the world. Many negative things people say about others come from lack of self-worth. We do not benefit by trashing others or spreading lies. It is important to remember that we are in this world going through it at our own pace. It is not a race and we all have something to overcome and recognize. With maturity, comes wisdom. Wisdom comes from experiences that are both good and bad and from listening to others. I love speaking to older folks because they have been through tons and they have some good advice.

What would you do for a career or job if money didn’t matter and why?


What am I most grateful for today?

I am most grateful for my heart. My heart gets me into trouble and I am too trusting but I refuse to give up on thinking most people are not good. I realized I have helped a lot of people in my lifetime and I need to continue doing good for others. I have built up a good network of professional people and friends. I am going to continue volunteering more with my kids. It is important to serve others. I had my time so tied up that I wasn’t making time to serve others. At one point, I had all my kids involved serving the poor on a regular basis. Then I began eating up my own time and not doing good for the community. I see a huge difference in my kids behavior and attitudes when we are serving the poor regularly. I am also grateful for an active creative mind. I am thinking way outside the box on how to make money and be there for my kids. It is not easy but I am confident I can do it. So many other people in this world have been able to make it happen, so can I.

What are you grateful for today? Please tell me in the comments section. I would really love to hear from you!


Jesus is my refuge…..

Today I am grateful for knowing that there is something bigger and more loving. I am grateful for Jesus. I feel comfort knowing I can seek refuge in him. There are evil things and people in this world. We need to crush the darkness with light. Do not fear. I love the Psalm 23:4 Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death (or through the darkest valley), I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows.

Hold your head up and move forward. There are many out there that will say things that aren’t true, twist the stories in their favor, but you will see their true colors. It all comes out. As they try to destroy you, they destroy themselves. The worst thing a person can do is speak and say untrue things. The tongue is the most powerful weapon and words cannot be unsaid. Filter what you hear and remember, there are always two sides to a coin. I think deeply about all the stories in the tabloids. I feel so bad for celebrities. I got a taste of what that feels like and I have a new appreciation for the other side of the coin. You can’t control what others say and do, but you can control how you react to it.  Remember, let Jesus take the wheel.

Grateful post #2

Today is the first day of school and all the kids got up with smiles and attitudes of cooperation. For that I am grateful. My son is going to an open interview today after school. I hope he gets the job. Feeling productive really helps a person feel better about themselves. He really wants to work and have his own money. It is a brisk morning and I am feeling positive. I pray I get my heat press back today!