What is enough?

I have been keeping my ears open and just letting comments and other people’s conversations sink into my brain. What sticks out is that most people do not understand what their own definition of enough is. What is enough? How much money is really enough? (That word if you say it over and over starts to sound weird) The question really goes deeper than the simplicity in which I have asked. I think it comes down to your perspective. What do you want out of life? Is it materialistic wealth or is it about your relationships and quality of life? As I got older, I did realize many things. First off, I realized you can work yourself to near death, make a bunch of money, but then you are too stressed and exhausted to enjoy it. Yes, I know that hard work pays off. I have been working since I was 12. However, being at the “top”, what does that look like to you? I will illustrate what that looks like for me. Being at the top for me is being there for my kids when they need me, having weekends to do things and make memories, having a consistent and stable income, and most importantly, saying yes to myself. You may be asking, what does it mean to say yes to yourself? Here is what I have learned. In the past, I was so busy taking care of everyone else’s needs that I forgot myself. You are a not a robot. You have to recharge your own batteries too. I would run myself mentally and physically into the ground and feel guilty about taking time for myself. That is completely backwards and wrong to do to yourself. If you don’t take care of you, you will not be healthy enough to take care of your loved ones. You are enough. Many of us go through life thinking we should be somewhere else in life, we need to change ourselves for others, and you know what? You don’t. Fine tuning behaviors is one thing, but putting your own interests aside and neglecting what you enjoy isn’t a good thing. We as humans are always trying to be something we are not. Who are you? What do you enjoy? We need to embrace our differences and other’s differences in order to be our unique individual selves. It is good to take in other perspectives because I believe by doing that, we are gaining insight and the next time we need to reach into ourselves and make a decision, we will have a new perspective. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. I know going against the grain isn’t easy, or popular, but by voicing your opinion and interjecting your uniqueness, you are bringing value to other’s lives. You are valuable, you can make a difference, you just have to believe you are worth more than you give yourself credit for. Keep shining bright. Your light will come through.

 

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Only in the face of adversity…..

Only in the face of adversity do you see someone’s true colors. When something unfortunate or bad happens, who is with you? Those who are with you and come to your aid are the one’s you need to keep in your life. On the flip side of the coin, are you the person who stays and helps or are you the one who has better things to do than comfort a friend? Life is a strange beast. One moment you are smiling and the next you are on the verge of tears. The things that happen to us, good or bad, shape who we are. If you put your whole heart and soul into life, as if you have never been broken, you will get back 10 fold. It is not easy trusting others because most of us have had trust broken or have been used. However, my advice is, do it anyway. You will never ever find the one who is worth trusting if you don’t allow  yourself to be vulnerable. In the face of adversity you will discover the true friends, the ones who love you, the ones who are worth more than any mega millions lottery ticket. Money comes and goes, but, a true friend is priceless. That feeling you get when your whole body is flooded with feelings because someone has shown you their most beautiful true colors, is an amazing experience. I hope you find true friends in this world. It isn’t about social status, who likes your posts on social media, or compliments on pictures you post. It is about true love for one another. I really believe there is more good than bad people in this world and in my opinion, love will always prevail. Fill your soul with lovely thoughts and do good in this world. Be the change you wish to see. If you want to change the world, change yourself and you are done! Being a good example and just being there for someone is enough.  Make memories and have new experiences. Find the good in the bad and laugh often. Sometimes laughing can make you feel better even when you feel defeated. Allow someone to pick you up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Amazing things happen out of one’s comfort zone. Come out from under your comfortable rock and allow yourself to experience real life.

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I understand…………..

I write about positive mind frames and attitudes. Yes, that is a huge component for me staying even keel, I do recognize that sometimes, medical intervention is necessary. There are chemical imbalances in the body that can cause depression, anxiety, and other mind altering issues. If you feel like you are in the boat of needing medical help, get it. Depression is real. Suicide is real. If you know someone who needs help, encourage them to get it. Listen to them and be there for them. Be a true friend in their time of need. I understand how it feels to be down a deep dark hole. It is so hard to find the light when all you feel is sadness and hopelessness. I understand. This is why I am encouraging you to open up to someone you trust. Sometimes we need someone to give us a helping hand, a loving gesture, or just a listening ear. I hope this post has helped you.

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Bring the room down………….

Attitude is everything. There is always one person in a group that is just so negative. Don’t be that person. That one person can infect the whole group. The type of energy you give off is what will turn into reality for the group. That is the same with life. Yes, I know things happen and life isn’t always roses and sunshine. It is how we get past those curve balls that will determine how we view the outcome. I do believe to my core that if you cultivate a positive attitude, you will be aware of more solutions. If you focus on the bad, that is all you will find. If you try to keep an open mind and look for solutions, you will find those as well. Recognizing that we have emotions and dealing with them is important to being healthy inside and out. Sometimes we just need to go in our car and scream our heads off and let it out. That is ok. Dealing with negative feelings is healthy. Dwelling on them is not. My philosophy is this, deal and move forward. Try to focus today on what is good. Find the good in those you meet. Find the sunshine through the clouds. I wake up with a grateful heart and I thank God for giving me another day to try again. We all have faults but sometimes those faults are not really faults at all. We look at ourselves through foggy lenses. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself and realize you are enough. This world is full of people who don’t think they are good enough for anyone and I believe that is because they don’t accept themselves. Every day we can improve our behaviors and attitude. Be enough for yourself and love with an open heart.  You have nothing to lose and only to gain.

 

 

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What we crave….

We crave connection. Look at traffic for instance, you will notice that people travel in packs on the road. There will be clusters of cars traveling together even though they are going to different destinations. We crave connection and some sort of acceptance from others. With cell phones and social media, we are still not getting that connection. As a matter of fact, I am convinced we are less connected than ever. I see so many couples on dates ignoring each other because they are on their phones. I see people walking down the street with their faces in their phones. I know for myself, I need that deep connection, that face to face interaction, those conversations that are not superficial…… You are never going to get what you need or establish any deep connection if you are not in the present. You have to be an active participant. My challenge to you today is this, have a face to face conversation and be in the present. Don’t check your phone, don’t think about what you could be doing, listen to the person in front of you and actively listen to them. You just never know what you might discover…………..

 

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What I truly believe.

Everyday I encounter great people in this huge but very small world. It amazes me the talents that each individual person has to offer this world. I believe we are all special in our own unique way. I also believe we were created by God. Now, some of you may be saying God doesn’t exist. That is ok. If that is what you believe then I respect that. We are all a part of this life but we are on our own journey. Each journey is unique just like you are. We all need to learn lessons in life and I believe there are people around us that are able to help us in their own way. Each experience we have, gives us a new perspective. I have always said that we should always be seeking truth and answers. We are not going to find those answers if we do not look. The human mind is created to think and reason. I believe we crave knowledge. Life is a quest for knowledge. I also believe we crave human interaction on many levels. Someone who challenges you mentally and gets you to think, is an important person to keep in your life. This world is an amazing world if you take the time to slow your thinking down and enjoy it. What is important to you? Is it money? Freedom to do as you please? Relationships? Whatever it may be, if you don’t keep your priorities straight, you may just miss everything. I firmly believe writing things down helps to solidify the concept or task in your brain. You are making a move to commit to something. Action is important because if you don’t act, then your idea is just a dream. I heard many times that if you don’t act on the idea, it will be gone within 5 seconds. I can see that. I consider writing it down the first action. We all learn in different ways and we all have different capacities for taking in information. That is ok. One of the most appealing attributes of this world to me is that we are all different. Embrace that difference. Learn from one another. Don’t prejudge based on looks. If we can keep an open mind, see through clear(er) eyes, and be kind to one another, this world will be that much more amazing. If you believe in God or don’t believe in God, at least try to live a good and healthy life. Be kind to one another. Have the courage to be kind and lead by a good example. I know we make mistakes and things happen, but try to correct those mistakes, forgive yourself, and move on. In the end, when we pass, it is not up to me what happens to you. Therefore, it is up to each individual to seek knowledge and to take responsibility for their own actions.

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It is already in you….

Everything you need to be successful is already in you. We can learn from others how to go about tasks or strategies for success, but you already possess your strengths that make you unique. We each offer this world a perspective that no one else has. Our experiences shape who we are and we can use those experiences to help others. The story of the baby born without legs who grew up in an adoptive family to be a gymnast, was a gymnast because it was already in her. Her name is Jennifer Bricker . Her parents never told her she couldn’t do something and she always believed she could do anything. Her idol was a famous gymnast. Later she found out that she was the sister of Dominique Moceanu.  The talent that was in her, was not taught, it was already within her. She had this burning desire to be a gymnast and she was because she pushed herself, even though, she was born without legs. We all have some burning desire to accomplish something. It is up to you to explore and really dig deep down into your soul and find what that burning desire is.  Many of us go through life feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. I really feel that feeling stems from deep within us because we are not living our full potential. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and have huge goals and aspirations. The feeling to be more is very contagious. Light that fire within you! We are all a part of the human experience. Are you ready to discover who you are?

 

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