It is already in you….

Everything you need to be successful is already in you. We can learn from others how to go about tasks or strategies for success, but you already possess your strengths that make you unique. We each offer this world a perspective that no one else has. Our experiences shape who we are and we can use those experiences to help others. The story of the baby born without legs who grew up in an adoptive family to be a gymnast, was a gymnast because it was already in her. Her name is Jennifer Bricker . Her parents never told her she couldn’t do something and she always believed she could do anything. Her idol was a famous gymnast. Later she found out that she was the sister of Dominique Moceanu.  The talent that was in her, was not taught, it was already within her. She had this burning desire to be a gymnast and she was because she pushed herself, even though, she was born without legs. We all have some burning desire to accomplish something. It is up to you to explore and really dig deep down into your soul and find what that burning desire is.  Many of us go through life feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. I really feel that feeling stems from deep within us because we are not living our full potential. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and have huge goals and aspirations. The feeling to be more is very contagious. Light that fire within you! We are all a part of the human experience. Are you ready to discover who you are?

 

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Believe. Change your thinking, change your body.

We all have personal struggles that range from some sort of addiction. Some are addicted to food, others drugs, and some people just put themselves in harms way because they have given up on themselves. Whatever the case is, we are all gifts from God. We deserve to be happy and most of all healthy. Since last September I had gained 34 pounds. On January 1st, 2018 I was miserable. I was not happy with the way I looked or felt. I was 196 pounds. That was when I decided I needed to evaluate everything going on in my life, starting with me. Oftentimes, we don’t do anything for ourselves. We give too much to others and then there is nothing left for ourselves. The worst part of that is, we feel we don’t deserve to give ourselves time. Why is that? Seriously, most of us treat ourselves like crap. Stop that!!! Just stop that! You are worthy. You deserve to be happy and to be loved. You have to start with your mental state. Your brain is a powerful component to your serenity. Even just taking the time to breathe deeply, to laugh often, and to enjoy the company of friends is vital to your life. Having friends is important. I know it is important and for many years when I was a stay at home mom, I didn’t focus on building friendships. I spent my time cleaning, cooking, and making sure everyone else was taken care of. I would often go to bed in my clothes that I didn’t change from the day before and then get up and start it all over again. I’m telling you, neglecting yourself is a tragedy. I am through with treating myself like shit. I made a commitment to myself on the 1st of January that I was going to love myself. I was going to lose the weight I gained and to improve my overall health. I bought a fitbit off of craigslist on March 31st. I wish I had done this sooner. Here are my stats from April according to the fitbit. I am just amazed to be honest with you.

35.25 hours of cardio zone heartrate

95,216 calories burned

570,511 steps

997.41 miles walked

I looked at these stats and my jaw dropped! I lost 15 pounds in the month of April. I hit the gym on the average of 6 days a week for 1.5 hours per day plus my job that is very active. I dropped 4 uniform pants sizes since January. My current weight as of this morning is 168.6. I am so happy with my progress. The hardest part of this transformation so far has been mental. We block ourselves and self-destruct so many things in our lives. I know that since the birth of my first daughter almost 19 years ago, my body has been in constant flux. I have had 5 children, all single births, and gained and lost so much weight for those pregnancies. My body feels used and stretched out but I am now reclaiming that. I used to say liposuction and a tummy tuck is so much easier. It may be, however, if you get that done and haven’t changed how you think about yourself, you may just go back to that original state and weight. I read somewhere and I don’t know how credible it is, but what the article said was when you shed weight in a fast way with procedures such as plastic surgery, your body replaces the fat cells lost with more. Supposedly it remembers how many fat cells you had and goes into protection mode. It made sense to me. You have to train your body to burn and metabolize food in a natural way over time. It took many years to put on weight, being patient and taking it off correctly is that hardest part. I started lifting weights and incorporating heavy cardio. I am still not at my goal but I am on my way. I got a scan done on April 9th and another one on May 9th. I will post the comparison on my blog. I want to help and inspire so many people. As women, we need to help elevate other women. I attached a picture I just took of myself this morning after the gym. You can shed the weight you don’t want. Don’t buy into all these diet pills and miracle procedures. If you want to change your body you can. It is going to take a hell of a lot of work on your part but it will be well worth the payoff in the end. Challenge yourself!!!!!Please post your comments below and share your story!!! Please share this post.

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Ideas implemented.

I was sitting at home really feeling like painting something. I had these ideas floating in my head. My daughter and I headed to the fabric store to find some canvases right away. I already had the paint so I was that much closer to making my vision a reality. The problem with ideas is that most of them we all have are literally gone into the air within 5 seconds of thinking it. Poof! Gone!

I knew that I needed to make a move into the implementation direction. I feel that making myself move, created momentum for other areas of my life too. Sometimes all we need is to make a small, bold move and then we changed the course of our life. A co-worker asked me, “why is it so much easier being unhealthy?” My reply was because we don’t have to force ourselves to switch directions. Being complacent is easy. I don’t want to be that person. What could’ve been, will not take over my head anymore. Create yourself, form yourself, and thrive.

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I want to have this……….

I heard some news yesterday about a man I did not have the pleasure of knowing. At work there was a man who was there for almost 30 years. His coworkers were texting him and the managers were calling him when he didn’t show up for work. Something felt off to the manager so what did he do? He left and drove over to his house to check on him and make sure he was alright. He found a half shoveled driveway, the back door open, and Mr. Pudney on the couch motionless. He had passed. He was just at work the day before. As I heard the news and the story of discovery, I couldn’t help but see the legacy he left.  He had touched profoundly everyone he interacted with. He was always in a good mood and lifted others up when they were down. I listened to everyone talk about this man yesterday. I prayed for him and I knew he would be alright in the next life. We should all strive to be like Mr. Pudney. How many managers would go check on an employee that didn’t show up? I am so glad to be part of the organization I am with. We have so many people at our station and 1 was missed so dearly. As I look at my life, I know I haven’t been the best person all  my life. We all are trying to find our way and how we fit into this world. WE all struggle with feelings of despair, hopelessness, emptiness, and loneliness. If we reach out to others and interact with them in a positive way we will leave a huge impact and possibly help fill some of those holes in ourselves and others. You just do not realize the impact we have on everyone we touch. We could give positive feelings to someone as we say hi or open the door. Everyone wants to feel valuable and at the very least acknowledged. Life is full of learning opportunities. I hope through this blog, your eyes will be opened to how you impact this world. We are individuals and we all belong to God. You are loved and precious. How are you going to impact this world today????

RIP Mr. Pudney. You are missed more than you can imagine!

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My friend…..

What does it mean to be a friend to someone? Are you a friend? I think about my closest friends that I had in my life. I am forever grateful to have such great people I can count on in my life. We go through this life once and if you can get connected on such a level with another individual, you are truly lucky. The older I get the more deeply connected I want to be. I don’t need tons of friends, just a few good ones.

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Happy St. Valentine’s Day!

I woke up this morning to a beautiful sunrise! I am grateful every morning that I am blessed to see another day. The sun is so bright filtering through my curtains. Today just seems perfect. Happy St. Valentine’s Day! Have you ever looked at the history of what most people are calling a Hallmark holiday? Emperor Claudius the second actually executed two men named Valentine on February 14. I know that is seems like doom and gloom. I just find it interesting how things are the way they are. There are many speculations as to what the men named Valentine did in their lifetime. The emperor killed them for wedding Christian couples in the 1400’s. So, maybe that is another reason that Valentine’s Day is a day of love? I think that we have many reasons to celebrate love and connections. Love comes in many forms. We can go out into this world today and love one another just by being kind. Hold a door for a stranger or simply smile at people you come in contact with. These acts of kindness don’t cost you anything except for your effort. That effort is worth a lot more than any money in the world. The one thing a person can give and never get back is their time. I feel many people in this world don’t value their time or account for it as precious. If you want to show someone you care for them, spend time with them. It isn’t about what you own, how big your bank account is, it is about the intangibles you give. The most valuable things on this Earth cannot be measured. Take the time to share your thoughts with another person. Take the time to chat face to face. These are the moments you will remember. Have a beautiful St. Valentine’s Day!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Who we think we are, defines us.

I have different views of who I think I am. If I go back to grade school, I can still hear some of the kids who were mean to me, the girls who were cruel to me in middle school, and the kids that talked behind my back in high school. If I allow those feelings and words to drive me, I will be what I think they think of me. It took me years to get those thoughts and feelings under control. I went through life hating my nose for instance. I was always told it was too big and it made me ugly. Kids can be cruel and kids also can say things that are mean maybe because they feel bad about themselves. We just don’t know what is going on in their head and therefore, we can’t allow it to rule our heads either. You are not who you think other people think you are. One freedom I have found in my 40’s is, I can be the person I want to be. I had a boyfriend tell me in the last year that if another guy saw me naked, he would never call me again. Those words hurt, however, as I looked at the person saying it, I wondered if that was true, why did he want to stay with me. Of course, we are no longer together. Saying mean things to others and putting them down is a true measure of how that person views themselves. Either that, or they are just trying to control you by trying to take your self-esteem away. In any case, don’t allow it to define you. Who are you? More importantly, who are you to yourself. I got dressed up yesterday and took myself out on a date with myself. It may sound strange but if I do not value myself, why should anyone else? Love yourself truly. That is the most freeing feeling. Accepting yourself completely is what love really is. You don’t need anyone to make you whole. A life partner should add not take away. You are whole already. Make deeper connections.

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