Only in the face of adversity…..

Only in the face of adversity do you see someone’s true colors. When something unfortunate or bad happens, who is with you? Those who are with you and come to your aid are the one’s you need to keep in your life. On the flip side of the coin, are you the person who stays and helps or are you the one who has better things to do than comfort a friend? Life is a strange beast. One moment you are smiling and the next you are on the verge of tears. The things that happen to us, good or bad, shape who we are. If you put your whole heart and soul into life, as if you have never been broken, you will get back 10 fold. It is not easy trusting others because most of us have had trust broken or have been used. However, my advice is, do it anyway. You will never ever find the one who is worth trusting if you don’t allow  yourself to be vulnerable. In the face of adversity you will discover the true friends, the ones who love you, the ones who are worth more than any mega millions lottery ticket. Money comes and goes, but, a true friend is priceless. That feeling you get when your whole body is flooded with feelings because someone has shown you their most beautiful true colors, is an amazing experience. I hope you find true friends in this world. It isn’t about social status, who likes your posts on social media, or compliments on pictures you post. It is about true love for one another. I really believe there is more good than bad people in this world and in my opinion, love will always prevail. Fill your soul with lovely thoughts and do good in this world. Be the change you wish to see. If you want to change the world, change yourself and you are done! Being a good example and just being there for someone is enough.  Make memories and have new experiences. Find the good in the bad and laugh often. Sometimes laughing can make you feel better even when you feel defeated. Allow someone to pick you up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Amazing things happen out of one’s comfort zone. Come out from under your comfortable rock and allow yourself to experience real life.

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Bring the room down………….

Attitude is everything. There is always one person in a group that is just so negative. Don’t be that person. That one person can infect the whole group. The type of energy you give off is what will turn into reality for the group. That is the same with life. Yes, I know things happen and life isn’t always roses and sunshine. It is how we get past those curve balls that will determine how we view the outcome. I do believe to my core that if you cultivate a positive attitude, you will be aware of more solutions. If you focus on the bad, that is all you will find. If you try to keep an open mind and look for solutions, you will find those as well. Recognizing that we have emotions and dealing with them is important to being healthy inside and out. Sometimes we just need to go in our car and scream our heads off and let it out. That is ok. Dealing with negative feelings is healthy. Dwelling on them is not. My philosophy is this, deal and move forward. Try to focus today on what is good. Find the good in those you meet. Find the sunshine through the clouds. I wake up with a grateful heart and I thank God for giving me another day to try again. We all have faults but sometimes those faults are not really faults at all. We look at ourselves through foggy lenses. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself and realize you are enough. This world is full of people who don’t think they are good enough for anyone and I believe that is because they don’t accept themselves. Every day we can improve our behaviors and attitude. Be enough for yourself and love with an open heart.  You have nothing to lose and only to gain.

 

 

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What wakes you up?

As I began cleaning the kitchen this morning and starting a delicious breakfast for the family to enjoy this morning, I felt very happy inside. Taking care of the ones I love is my number one priority. I feel like I am fully awake in the sense that I know where my priorities here on Earth are. The relationships you have with others depends on the effort you exert and the effort they exert. You cannot have a relationship with someone who doesn’t want it. With that in mind, you cannot please everyone. No matter who you are, there will be people in your life that are just not meant to be. Learn your lessons and move on. Don’t feel bad if someone doesn’t like you or you didn’t connect. I feel it is an impossible goal of trying to get every single person to like you in this world. I have known so many people who get extreme anxiety or are very hurt to their core if they feel they are not accepted by everyone. My answer to this is, focus on what you can control. Filter out negative people and focus on how you want your life to be. You are in control( to a point) on how your life turns out. Yes, we have all been hurt by someone. Maybe that hurt stems from a parent or from a significant other that betrayed you in someway.  Try to let go of that hurt and realize that you don’t know the full story. You don’t know all the factors that played a part in that scenario. You may never know the details. This is exactly why you need to heal and move on. Not everyone you meet is there to hurt you or use you. Keep that in mind. Live and love to the fullest extent. If you hold back, you just never will ever know what you could have had. You are beautiful and you deserve happiness. You will never have to apologize for loving someone and treating them right.

 

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