What is enough?

I have been keeping my ears open and just letting comments and other people’s conversations sink into my brain. What sticks out is that most people do not understand what their own definition of enough is. What is enough? How much money is really enough? (That word if you say it over and over starts to sound weird) The question really goes deeper than the simplicity in which I have asked. I think it comes down to your perspective. What do you want out of life? Is it materialistic wealth or is it about your relationships and quality of life? As I got older, I did realize many things. First off, I realized you can work yourself to near death, make a bunch of money, but then you are too stressed and exhausted to enjoy it. Yes, I know that hard work pays off. I have been working since I was 12. However, being at the “top”, what does that look like to you? I will illustrate what that looks like for me. Being at the top for me is being there for my kids when they need me, having weekends to do things and make memories, having a consistent and stable income, and most importantly, saying yes to myself. You may be asking, what does it mean to say yes to yourself? Here is what I have learned. In the past, I was so busy taking care of everyone else’s needs that I forgot myself. You are a not a robot. You have to recharge your own batteries too. I would run myself mentally and physically into the ground and feel guilty about taking time for myself. That is completely backwards and wrong to do to yourself. If you don’t take care of you, you will not be healthy enough to take care of your loved ones. You are enough. Many of us go through life thinking we should be somewhere else in life, we need to change ourselves for others, and you know what? You don’t. Fine tuning behaviors is one thing, but putting your own interests aside and neglecting what you enjoy isn’t a good thing. We as humans are always trying to be something we are not. Who are you? What do you enjoy? We need to embrace our differences and other’s differences in order to be our unique individual selves. It is good to take in other perspectives because I believe by doing that, we are gaining insight and the next time we need to reach into ourselves and make a decision, we will have a new perspective. Don’t be afraid to voice your opinion. I know going against the grain isn’t easy, or popular, but by voicing your opinion and interjecting your uniqueness, you are bringing value to other’s lives. You are valuable, you can make a difference, you just have to believe you are worth more than you give yourself credit for. Keep shining bright. Your light will come through.

 

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The power of simplicity.

Life is so complicated isn’t it? Well, I believe we complicate our own lives. It is amazing how much most of us have going on. We are always on the go, doing something, taking someone somewhere, or just trying to stay busy. Why do we do this to ourselves? We overstimulate ourselves and then we do things like take drugs or drink to bring ourselves down, numb ourselves from all the stimulus around us. What if we just slowed down, unplugged from technology once in awhile, and just enjoyed the natural beauty around us? I really feel that if we did these things, we would bring our stress levels down and would begin to enjoy life. It’s worth a shot! Try it and see if you feel better. Simple is easy to enjoy. Who cares about material things. Material upkeep is just a distraction. Who cares what others think of you regarding appearances or your projected wealth. What matters is a real friend. Someone who likes you because of who you are, not what you can do for them or what you have is seemingly rare in this world of likes and dislikes on social media. We need to use technology as a tool, not a way of life. The internet isn’t real life. Get together with actual people who are in front of you, put your phone away, and focus on them. Now, that is living!

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