Only in the face of adversity…..

Only in the face of adversity do you see someone’s true colors. When something unfortunate or bad happens, who is with you? Those who are with you and come to your aid are the one’s you need to keep in your life. On the flip side of the coin, are you the person who stays and helps or are you the one who has better things to do than comfort a friend? Life is a strange beast. One moment you are smiling and the next you are on the verge of tears. The things that happen to us, good or bad, shape who we are. If you put your whole heart and soul into life, as if you have never been broken, you will get back 10 fold. It is not easy trusting others because most of us have had trust broken or have been used. However, my advice is, do it anyway. You will never ever find the one who is worth trusting if you don’t allow  yourself to be vulnerable. In the face of adversity you will discover the true friends, the ones who love you, the ones who are worth more than any mega millions lottery ticket. Money comes and goes, but, a true friend is priceless. That feeling you get when your whole body is flooded with feelings because someone has shown you their most beautiful true colors, is an amazing experience. I hope you find true friends in this world. It isn’t about social status, who likes your posts on social media, or compliments on pictures you post. It is about true love for one another. I really believe there is more good than bad people in this world and in my opinion, love will always prevail. Fill your soul with lovely thoughts and do good in this world. Be the change you wish to see. If you want to change the world, change yourself and you are done! Being a good example and just being there for someone is enough.  Make memories and have new experiences. Find the good in the bad and laugh often. Sometimes laughing can make you feel better even when you feel defeated. Allow someone to pick you up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Amazing things happen out of one’s comfort zone. Come out from under your comfortable rock and allow yourself to experience real life.

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Bring the room down………….

Attitude is everything. There is always one person in a group that is just so negative. Don’t be that person. That one person can infect the whole group. The type of energy you give off is what will turn into reality for the group. That is the same with life. Yes, I know things happen and life isn’t always roses and sunshine. It is how we get past those curve balls that will determine how we view the outcome. I do believe to my core that if you cultivate a positive attitude, you will be aware of more solutions. If you focus on the bad, that is all you will find. If you try to keep an open mind and look for solutions, you will find those as well. Recognizing that we have emotions and dealing with them is important to being healthy inside and out. Sometimes we just need to go in our car and scream our heads off and let it out. That is ok. Dealing with negative feelings is healthy. Dwelling on them is not. My philosophy is this, deal and move forward. Try to focus today on what is good. Find the good in those you meet. Find the sunshine through the clouds. I wake up with a grateful heart and I thank God for giving me another day to try again. We all have faults but sometimes those faults are not really faults at all. We look at ourselves through foggy lenses. Don’t be so hard on yourself. Love yourself. Accept yourself and realize you are enough. This world is full of people who don’t think they are good enough for anyone and I believe that is because they don’t accept themselves. Every day we can improve our behaviors and attitude. Be enough for yourself and love with an open heart.  You have nothing to lose and only to gain.

 

 

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It is already in you….

Everything you need to be successful is already in you. We can learn from others how to go about tasks or strategies for success, but you already possess your strengths that make you unique. We each offer this world a perspective that no one else has. Our experiences shape who we are and we can use those experiences to help others. The story of the baby born without legs who grew up in an adoptive family to be a gymnast, was a gymnast because it was already in her. Her name is Jennifer Bricker . Her parents never told her she couldn’t do something and she always believed she could do anything. Her idol was a famous gymnast. Later she found out that she was the sister of Dominique Moceanu.  The talent that was in her, was not taught, it was already within her. She had this burning desire to be a gymnast and she was because she pushed herself, even though, she was born without legs. We all have some burning desire to accomplish something. It is up to you to explore and really dig deep down into your soul and find what that burning desire is.  Many of us go through life feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. I really feel that feeling stems from deep within us because we are not living our full potential. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and have huge goals and aspirations. The feeling to be more is very contagious. Light that fire within you! We are all a part of the human experience. Are you ready to discover who you are?

 

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Believe. Change your thinking, change your body.

We all have personal struggles that range from some sort of addiction. Some are addicted to food, others drugs, and some people just put themselves in harms way because they have given up on themselves. Whatever the case is, we are all gifts from God. We deserve to be happy and most of all healthy. Since last September I had gained 34 pounds. On January 1st, 2018 I was miserable. I was not happy with the way I looked or felt. I was 196 pounds. That was when I decided I needed to evaluate everything going on in my life, starting with me. Oftentimes, we don’t do anything for ourselves. We give too much to others and then there is nothing left for ourselves. The worst part of that is, we feel we don’t deserve to give ourselves time. Why is that? Seriously, most of us treat ourselves like crap. Stop that!!! Just stop that! You are worthy. You deserve to be happy and to be loved. You have to start with your mental state. Your brain is a powerful component to your serenity. Even just taking the time to breathe deeply, to laugh often, and to enjoy the company of friends is vital to your life. Having friends is important. I know it is important and for many years when I was a stay at home mom, I didn’t focus on building friendships. I spent my time cleaning, cooking, and making sure everyone else was taken care of. I would often go to bed in my clothes that I didn’t change from the day before and then get up and start it all over again. I’m telling you, neglecting yourself is a tragedy. I am through with treating myself like shit. I made a commitment to myself on the 1st of January that I was going to love myself. I was going to lose the weight I gained and to improve my overall health. I bought a fitbit off of craigslist on March 31st. I wish I had done this sooner. Here are my stats from April according to the fitbit. I am just amazed to be honest with you.

35.25 hours of cardio zone heartrate

95,216 calories burned

570,511 steps

997.41 miles walked

I looked at these stats and my jaw dropped! I lost 15 pounds in the month of April. I hit the gym on the average of 6 days a week for 1.5 hours per day plus my job that is very active. I dropped 4 uniform pants sizes since January. My current weight as of this morning is 168.6. I am so happy with my progress. The hardest part of this transformation so far has been mental. We block ourselves and self-destruct so many things in our lives. I know that since the birth of my first daughter almost 19 years ago, my body has been in constant flux. I have had 5 children, all single births, and gained and lost so much weight for those pregnancies. My body feels used and stretched out but I am now reclaiming that. I used to say liposuction and a tummy tuck is so much easier. It may be, however, if you get that done and haven’t changed how you think about yourself, you may just go back to that original state and weight. I read somewhere and I don’t know how credible it is, but what the article said was when you shed weight in a fast way with procedures such as plastic surgery, your body replaces the fat cells lost with more. Supposedly it remembers how many fat cells you had and goes into protection mode. It made sense to me. You have to train your body to burn and metabolize food in a natural way over time. It took many years to put on weight, being patient and taking it off correctly is that hardest part. I started lifting weights and incorporating heavy cardio. I am still not at my goal but I am on my way. I got a scan done on April 9th and another one on May 9th. I will post the comparison on my blog. I want to help and inspire so many people. As women, we need to help elevate other women. I attached a picture I just took of myself this morning after the gym. You can shed the weight you don’t want. Don’t buy into all these diet pills and miracle procedures. If you want to change your body you can. It is going to take a hell of a lot of work on your part but it will be well worth the payoff in the end. Challenge yourself!!!!!Please post your comments below and share your story!!! Please share this post.

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Inspiring…….

I get the privilege every day to see most beautiful sunsets. I am always in awe of what God allows me to see. The sheer bright whiteness of the sun tells me God is in charge. I do a sign of the cross every time I see that beautiful light shining through the clouds. It is absolutely magnificent! I look at it and sometimes, I just catch it before it disappears. I interpret it as God shining down on me and letting me know he is there and hears me. I have been so inspired to paint because of these sunsets. So, today in the midst of my errands, I decided to pull out the paint and brushes. I did get frustrated because I could not get the sunset reflection right. It looked incredibly wrong. It felt wrong. As the day went on, I let it rest and I went along my day. Then after a few hours, I pulled out the paint and just began mixing paint and brushing it on the canvas. God took my brush and I know this because he made my picture so much better than I imagined. You may be thinking I am nuts, but as I look at it, I feel he helped guide me. I know this because as I look at the sun in my picture, I feel the same awe I do when I see the sun glowing in the clouds every night. Some things you just can’t prove. I feel it. Look around you and be inspired.  There is so much in this world to notice. Get off your phone and interact with real people standing before you.  That in itself may awe you! I love you and trust you Jesus!

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Ideas implemented.

I was sitting at home really feeling like painting something. I had these ideas floating in my head. My daughter and I headed to the fabric store to find some canvases right away. I already had the paint so I was that much closer to making my vision a reality. The problem with ideas is that most of them we all have are literally gone into the air within 5 seconds of thinking it. Poof! Gone!

I knew that I needed to make a move into the implementation direction. I feel that making myself move, created momentum for other areas of my life too. Sometimes all we need is to make a small, bold move and then we changed the course of our life. A co-worker asked me, “why is it so much easier being unhealthy?” My reply was because we don’t have to force ourselves to switch directions. Being complacent is easy. I don’t want to be that person. What could’ve been, will not take over my head anymore. Create yourself, form yourself, and thrive.

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Who we think we are, defines us.

I have different views of who I think I am. If I go back to grade school, I can still hear some of the kids who were mean to me, the girls who were cruel to me in middle school, and the kids that talked behind my back in high school. If I allow those feelings and words to drive me, I will be what I think they think of me. It took me years to get those thoughts and feelings under control. I went through life hating my nose for instance. I was always told it was too big and it made me ugly. Kids can be cruel and kids also can say things that are mean maybe because they feel bad about themselves. We just don’t know what is going on in their head and therefore, we can’t allow it to rule our heads either. You are not who you think other people think you are. One freedom I have found in my 40’s is, I can be the person I want to be. I had a boyfriend tell me in the last year that if another guy saw me naked, he would never call me again. Those words hurt, however, as I looked at the person saying it, I wondered if that was true, why did he want to stay with me. Of course, we are no longer together. Saying mean things to others and putting them down is a true measure of how that person views themselves. Either that, or they are just trying to control you by trying to take your self-esteem away. In any case, don’t allow it to define you. Who are you? More importantly, who are you to yourself. I got dressed up yesterday and took myself out on a date with myself. It may sound strange but if I do not value myself, why should anyone else? Love yourself truly. That is the most freeing feeling. Accepting yourself completely is what love really is. You don’t need anyone to make you whole. A life partner should add not take away. You are whole already. Make deeper connections.

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