True intentions.

If you want to find out someone’s true intentions, be friends with them. Do not complicate anything with sex. I see so many times and I have experienced these, that when you add sex, things get all screwed up. Be friends with someone. Do things with them that are of the same interest. If your heart flutters, he isn’t the one. I am starting to believe that the one for me will make me feel calm. He will help calm me in times of need, be logical when I am not, we will laugh together, and I will be able to be my true self. I won’t have to hide my feelings, opinions, or anything. This will not be known unless you are friends first. What I think I mean by that, is friends for a good while, not just 3 weeks for example. As I hear others talk about their relationships, I am more convinced than ever. You know what I absolutely hate? Guys that over compliment to get into your pants. Seriously men, stop that! It takes more of a genuine effort to be friends with someone. If you are not interested in the true me, then you are not going to be getting a one night stand or someone to f+%&k. No way! Women, if you want to know if a guy likes you and is interested in you, don’t give your body freely. If they leave when you don’t give it up, then they were always going to leave. Men, respect women! If you need to just use them, remember, they are someone’s daughter, sister, ,mother, friend. Be respectful and just walk away before you hurt them deeply.

Respect one another.


So, I am going to write about something that is not a positive. I am just not understanding why people are the way they are. Why do men and women use each other? Who can you trust? I was just told about a guy at my work that was bragging to other men that are co-workers that he “banged” a 19 year old and sent the pictures to his ex that recently broke up with him. Seriously???? If this guy ever told me that, he would be barking up the wrong tree! I have 3 daughters and one is 19 this year. Do guys think they look more appealing sounding like an asshole? If these kinds of guys are what most of the world is made up of, I will remain single because I do not want to get involved with someone like that. Could you imagine dating someone you think is being honest and he just wants to bang you then move on to the next woman? I heard about this last night and woke up in a fighting mood. I am really protective of my children. If my boys ever treated a girl/woman this way, they would not want to be in my path. However, I hope that I have instilled the values and morals in them their whole lives that I would hope and pray that what I have tried to teach them sticks. I am constantly telling them to be nice to girls and treat them with the utmost respect. As long as I am living in this world, I will always tell my kids this. They will be 40 and I will still remind them. I wanted to always raise my kids with morals and the values this world seems to be lacking. We are supposed to respect others, not use them until they have nothing left, because you took it all, and then leave.


I’m glad I did.

I was in my living room last night when a friend of mine called. I was invited to go workout, pass and everything taken care of. I said an immediate “no thank you, I would love to but…..” After the words slipped out of my mouth, I said “wait, I will call you back in 10 minutes and give you an answer if I can find my workout clothes.” She said ok. I am glad I got out of my comfortable house and just showed up. At first I really didn’t want to go because it took effort. My words of wisdom hit me in the face and I followed my own advice. I braved the bitter cold and got my butt to the gym. The first 10 minutes on a machine seemed like it took forever, then I said let’s hit a mile and then we can stop. We hit a mile, went on another machine which went faster. Then we hit the weights. I could barely make it through the first 10 min without wanting to quit and before you know it, we were there for 90 min! It felt great!!! I was so glad we pushed each other. We all need to get uncomfortable and push not only ourselves, but others. It is amazing what happens with a little bit of encouragement. Simple steps of just showing up can be life changing! Most people don’t show up and then they never experience change.


What motivates you?

Many of us need to really be “moved” to be motivated to change the direction of our lives. For some of us, that could be a devastating event and for others, they are just naturally curious. What gets you going? For me, it is the internal drive to improve myself. If I am unsure how to do something or I am unaware of how to do something, I usually research it and try it. Sometimes, I realize I don’t like whatever task I am doing, but I learned something in the process. If we go day in and day out, eating relatively the same food, falling into a similar pattern for the day, and never really looking to learn something new, then we get bored. I used to think I got bored of the job I was doing and then needed to find a new one. I have since realized, it is not the job, it was my life. I needed to grow my soul and cultivate my skills.  I like to shake things up and throw myself a curve ball. Doing that keeps my brain and my body motivated to do more. I know I need more of nature and becoming one with nature. I used to be so distracted by social media and not paying as much attention to who is real in my life. I am happy things have recently become even more clear. I have to say, life in your 40’s is divine.  What gets you motivated?



So, everyone is doing something you probably thought of. The difference is, they acted upon their idea. I heard once that if you don’t act on an idea within literally5 seconds, your motivation is gone to do anything about that idea. It is so true!!! So, train yourself to get the motivation to act. Set your alarm 30 min early and push the covers off. Break through your routine and use that change to push you forward. There is a chain reaction to changing your routine. You will find yourself making other decisions that are maybe more bold later in the day. Change your routine, change your life! Success is simple but the path is not easy. STOP making excuses as to why you can’t and say why you can! It ain’t rocket science people!( Yes, I know ain’t isn’t a word!)


Binge watching Christmas movies………..

AS I watch these movies, I wonder do these love tales exist??? I really don’t think that they do. Real life isn’t the movies and that is the problem with watching these. I feel like my expectations are set so high, that it can’t possibly exist. I am not asking for magic, I am just asking for mutual actual love and respect. I have been doing some PT work as a merchandiser, merchandising books. As I read these titles and the premises of e books, I think who writes these things? Then a customer was walking by and started talking to me and saying he wants to write books. He commented on the romance books and I said but they set an unrealistic expectation of what a romantic relationship is. His reply was but women can at least read about it and have it in an intellectual form. So, my question is, does this kind of love actually exist? Actual love. I have been thinking that the only actual love that exists is the that between us and God and the love we have for our children. other than that, I don’t feel like there is no strings attached love.


If you could, would you?

Let’s pretend money doesn’t exist and you don’t need it to survive. What would you choose to do with your time, talents, or job? Yes, some people out there would say that if they didn’t need money, they would not work. Let’s pretend you don’t need money and you do have to work. What would you choose to do with your time? I would get out there and help others see their potential. I would try to build them up so they could see and recognize their talents. I truly believe that we all have something inside us that will help the world. Many negative things people say about others come from lack of self-worth. We do not benefit by trashing others or spreading lies. It is important to remember that we are in this world going through it at our own pace. It is not a race and we all have something to overcome and recognize. With maturity, comes wisdom. Wisdom comes from experiences that are both good and bad and from listening to others. I love speaking to older folks because they have been through tons and they have some good advice.

What would you do for a career or job if money didn’t matter and why?