Only in the face of adversity…..

Only in the face of adversity do you see someone’s true colors. When something unfortunate or bad happens, who is with you? Those who are with you and come to your aid are the one’s you need to keep in your life. On the flip side of the coin, are you the person who stays and helps or are you the one who has better things to do than comfort a friend? Life is a strange beast. One moment you are smiling and the next you are on the verge of tears. The things that happen to us, good or bad, shape who we are. If you put your whole heart and soul into life, as if you have never been broken, you will get back 10 fold. It is not easy trusting others because most of us have had trust broken or have been used. However, my advice is, do it anyway. You will never ever find the one who is worth trusting if you don’t allow  yourself to be vulnerable. In the face of adversity you will discover the true friends, the ones who love you, the ones who are worth more than any mega millions lottery ticket. Money comes and goes, but, a true friend is priceless. That feeling you get when your whole body is flooded with feelings because someone has shown you their most beautiful true colors, is an amazing experience. I hope you find true friends in this world. It isn’t about social status, who likes your posts on social media, or compliments on pictures you post. It is about true love for one another. I really believe there is more good than bad people in this world and in my opinion, love will always prevail. Fill your soul with lovely thoughts and do good in this world. Be the change you wish to see. If you want to change the world, change yourself and you are done! Being a good example and just being there for someone is enough.  Make memories and have new experiences. Find the good in the bad and laugh often. Sometimes laughing can make you feel better even when you feel defeated. Allow someone to pick you up and allow yourself to be vulnerable. Amazing things happen out of one’s comfort zone. Come out from under your comfortable rock and allow yourself to experience real life.

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It is already in you….

Everything you need to be successful is already in you. We can learn from others how to go about tasks or strategies for success, but you already possess your strengths that make you unique. We each offer this world a perspective that no one else has. Our experiences shape who we are and we can use those experiences to help others. The story of the baby born without legs who grew up in an adoptive family to be a gymnast, was a gymnast because it was already in her. Her name is Jennifer Bricker . Her parents never told her she couldn’t do something and she always believed she could do anything. Her idol was a famous gymnast. Later she found out that she was the sister of Dominique Moceanu.  The talent that was in her, was not taught, it was already within her. She had this burning desire to be a gymnast and she was because she pushed herself, even though, she was born without legs. We all have some burning desire to accomplish something. It is up to you to explore and really dig deep down into your soul and find what that burning desire is.  Many of us go through life feeling unfulfilled and unsatisfied. I really feel that feeling stems from deep within us because we are not living our full potential. Surround yourself with people that lift you up and have huge goals and aspirations. The feeling to be more is very contagious. Light that fire within you! We are all a part of the human experience. Are you ready to discover who you are?

 

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Ideas implemented.

I was sitting at home really feeling like painting something. I had these ideas floating in my head. My daughter and I headed to the fabric store to find some canvases right away. I already had the paint so I was that much closer to making my vision a reality. The problem with ideas is that most of them we all have are literally gone into the air within 5 seconds of thinking it. Poof! Gone!

I knew that I needed to make a move into the implementation direction. I feel that making myself move, created momentum for other areas of my life too. Sometimes all we need is to make a small, bold move and then we changed the course of our life. A co-worker asked me, “why is it so much easier being unhealthy?” My reply was because we don’t have to force ourselves to switch directions. Being complacent is easy. I don’t want to be that person. What could’ve been, will not take over my head anymore. Create yourself, form yourself, and thrive.

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I’m glad I did.

I was in my living room last night when a friend of mine called. I was invited to go workout, pass and everything taken care of. I said an immediate “no thank you, I would love to but…..” After the words slipped out of my mouth, I said “wait, I will call you back in 10 minutes and give you an answer if I can find my workout clothes.” She said ok. I am glad I got out of my comfortable house and just showed up. At first I really didn’t want to go because it took effort. My words of wisdom hit me in the face and I followed my own advice. I braved the bitter cold and got my butt to the gym. The first 10 minutes on a machine seemed like it took forever, then I said let’s hit a mile and then we can stop. We hit a mile, went on another machine which went faster. Then we hit the weights. I could barely make it through the first 10 min without wanting to quit and before you know it, we were there for 90 min! It felt great!!! I was so glad we pushed each other. We all need to get uncomfortable and push not only ourselves, but others. It is amazing what happens with a little bit of encouragement. Simple steps of just showing up can be life changing! Most people don’t show up and then they never experience change.

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What motivates you?

Many of us need to really be “moved” to be motivated to change the direction of our lives. For some of us, that could be a devastating event and for others, they are just naturally curious. What gets you going? For me, it is the internal drive to improve myself. If I am unsure how to do something or I am unaware of how to do something, I usually research it and try it. Sometimes, I realize I don’t like whatever task I am doing, but I learned something in the process. If we go day in and day out, eating relatively the same food, falling into a similar pattern for the day, and never really looking to learn something new, then we get bored. I used to think I got bored of the job I was doing and then needed to find a new one. I have since realized, it is not the job, it was my life. I needed to grow my soul and cultivate my skills.  I like to shake things up and throw myself a curve ball. Doing that keeps my brain and my body motivated to do more. I know I need more of nature and becoming one with nature. I used to be so distracted by social media and not paying as much attention to who is real in my life. I am happy things have recently become even more clear. I have to say, life in your 40’s is divine.  What gets you motivated?

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Genius!

So, everyone is doing something you probably thought of. The difference is, they acted upon their idea. I heard once that if you don’t act on an idea within literally5 seconds, your motivation is gone to do anything about that idea. It is so true!!! So, train yourself to get the motivation to act. Set your alarm 30 min early and push the covers off. Break through your routine and use that change to push you forward. There is a chain reaction to changing your routine. You will find yourself making other decisions that are maybe more bold later in the day. Change your routine, change your life! Success is simple but the path is not easy. STOP making excuses as to why you can’t and say why you can! It ain’t rocket science people!( Yes, I know ain’t isn’t a word!)

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Binge watching Christmas movies………..

AS I watch these movies, I wonder do these love tales exist??? I really don’t think that they do. Real life isn’t the movies and that is the problem with watching these. I feel like my expectations are set so high, that it can’t possibly exist. I am not asking for magic, I am just asking for mutual actual love and respect. I have been doing some PT work as a merchandiser, merchandising books. As I read these titles and the premises of e books, I think who writes these things? Then a customer was walking by and started talking to me and saying he wants to write books. He commented on the romance books and I said but they set an unrealistic expectation of what a romantic relationship is. His reply was but women can at least read about it and have it in an intellectual form. So, my question is, does this kind of love actually exist? Actual love. I have been thinking that the only actual love that exists is the that between us and God and the love we have for our children. other than that, I don’t feel like there is no strings attached love.

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