Laughter is the best medicine……laughter will set you free!

Life can be stressful and energy depleting but it is also fun and interesting. I love feeling happy and the only way I know how to do that it is to laugh often. I love the feeling of laughing so hard that I can barely breathe. It is completely exhilarating! I feel instant stress relief and an endorphin rush. Feelings are contagious. I want to influence others and myself in a positive way. I see so many people everyday that just look upset, depleted, and not happy. The only one responsible for your happiness is you. You are the one that can make you happy, not anyone else. Figure out what you like to do, try something new, and just have a good time. No matter what you are doing in this life, laugh often. If you are hanging around people that bring you down, find new friends to be around. Take yourself out and have a good time. I look at kids and I see them goofing around and not taking everything so seriously. There are times that you will need to be focused and serious, but don’t forget to let loose once in awhile. If you want to live a long life, you have to relax and enjoy it.

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Who we think we are, defines us.

I have different views of who I think I am. If I go back to grade school, I can still hear some of the kids who were mean to me, the girls who were cruel to me in middle school, and the kids that talked behind my back in high school. If I allow those feelings and words to drive me, I will be what I think they think of me. It took me years to get those thoughts and feelings under control. I went through life hating my nose for instance. I was always told it was too big and it made me ugly. Kids can be cruel and kids also can say things that are mean maybe because they feel bad about themselves. We just don’t know what is going on in their head and therefore, we can’t allow it to rule our heads either. You are not who you think other people think you are. One freedom I have found in my 40’s is, I can be the person I want to be. I had a boyfriend tell me in the last year that if another guy saw me naked, he would never call me again. Those words hurt, however, as I looked at the person saying it, I wondered if that was true, why did he want to stay with me. Of course, we are no longer together. Saying mean things to others and putting them down is a true measure of how that person views themselves. Either that, or they are just trying to control you by trying to take your self-esteem away. In any case, don’t allow it to define you. Who are you? More importantly, who are you to yourself. I got dressed up yesterday and took myself out on a date with myself. It may sound strange but if I do not value myself, why should anyone else? Love yourself truly. That is the most freeing feeling. Accepting yourself completely is what love really is. You don’t need anyone to make you whole. A life partner should add not take away. You are whole already. Make deeper connections.

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What you do, does matter….

Cream rises to the top my mom has always said. The saying has always stuck with me. If you want something in life, go for it. Many times we often put a monetary value on whatever it is we do. For instance, a child will ask how much they are going to get paid for a chore around the house. Now that is not a bad thing, because that child is trying to figure out what that chore is worth or how much they are going to get in exchange for their time. As human beings, we want to be valued. We want to know that what we are doing is valuable. However, there is an inherent flaw with that thought process. The flaw is this, we equate the value of the work as our personal value. Our value as a human being is not worth what you make in life monetarily, you are priceless. I have heard it, experienced it, and seen this happen. Get out of that thinking pattern! You are priceless, you are a gift from God. Human beings are the ones who put monetary value on themselves, not God. It has been my experience that once you free yourself from this dangerous thinking, you will truly see yourself in a different light. You will begin to be able to do things you never imagined. You will realize the importance of life. The value of life is far more than we imagine. Why would God give us so many chances if we were worth some pieces of paper or a silly little coin? Our potential is far greater than you can imagine. You will start to see this once you free yourself from small minded thinking. Once you stop allowing yourself to be boxed in the categories many people use to group individuals into. You have such potential but you will never fully get there if you are only interested in the material aspect of this world. You are a soul with a body, not a body with a soul. The choice is yours to make. Are you the cream????

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What motivates you?

Many of us need to really be “moved” to be motivated to change the direction of our lives. For some of us, that could be a devastating event and for others, they are just naturally curious. What gets you going? For me, it is the internal drive to improve myself. If I am unsure how to do something or I am unaware of how to do something, I usually research it and try it. Sometimes, I realize I don’t like whatever task I am doing, but I learned something in the process. If we go day in and day out, eating relatively the same food, falling into a similar pattern for the day, and never really looking to learn something new, then we get bored. I used to think I got bored of the job I was doing and then needed to find a new one. I have since realized, it is not the job, it was my life. I needed to grow my soul and cultivate my skills.  I like to shake things up and throw myself a curve ball. Doing that keeps my brain and my body motivated to do more. I know I need more of nature and becoming one with nature. I used to be so distracted by social media and not paying as much attention to who is real in my life. I am happy things have recently become even more clear. I have to say, life in your 40’s is divine.  What gets you motivated?

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Binge watching Christmas movies………..

AS I watch these movies, I wonder do these love tales exist??? I really don’t think that they do. Real life isn’t the movies and that is the problem with watching these. I feel like my expectations are set so high, that it can’t possibly exist. I am not asking for magic, I am just asking for mutual actual love and respect. I have been doing some PT work as a merchandiser, merchandising books. As I read these titles and the premises of e books, I think who writes these things? Then a customer was walking by and started talking to me and saying he wants to write books. He commented on the romance books and I said but they set an unrealistic expectation of what a romantic relationship is. His reply was but women can at least read about it and have it in an intellectual form. So, my question is, does this kind of love actually exist? Actual love. I have been thinking that the only actual love that exists is the that between us and God and the love we have for our children. other than that, I don’t feel like there is no strings attached love.

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If you could, would you?

Let’s pretend money doesn’t exist and you don’t need it to survive. What would you choose to do with your time, talents, or job? Yes, some people out there would say that if they didn’t need money, they would not work. Let’s pretend you don’t need money and you do have to work. What would you choose to do with your time? I would get out there and help others see their potential. I would try to build them up so they could see and recognize their talents. I truly believe that we all have something inside us that will help the world. Many negative things people say about others come from lack of self-worth. We do not benefit by trashing others or spreading lies. It is important to remember that we are in this world going through it at our own pace. It is not a race and we all have something to overcome and recognize. With maturity, comes wisdom. Wisdom comes from experiences that are both good and bad and from listening to others. I love speaking to older folks because they have been through tons and they have some good advice.

What would you do for a career or job if money didn’t matter and why?

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What am I most grateful for today?

I am most grateful for my heart. My heart gets me into trouble and I am too trusting but I refuse to give up on thinking most people are not good. I realized I have helped a lot of people in my lifetime and I need to continue doing good for others. I have built up a good network of professional people and friends. I am going to continue volunteering more with my kids. It is important to serve others. I had my time so tied up that I wasn’t making time to serve others. At one point, I had all my kids involved serving the poor on a regular basis. Then I began eating up my own time and not doing good for the community. I see a huge difference in my kids behavior and attitudes when we are serving the poor regularly. I am also grateful for an active creative mind. I am thinking way outside the box on how to make money and be there for my kids. It is not easy but I am confident I can do it. So many other people in this world have been able to make it happen, so can I.

What are you grateful for today? Please tell me in the comments section. I would really love to hear from you!

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